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  • Allen, E. S., & Atkins, D. C. (2012). The association of divorce and extramarital sex in a representative US sample. Journal of Family Issues, 33(11), 1477-1493. DOI:
  • Allen, E. S., & Atkins, D. C. (2005). The multidimensional and developmental nature of infidelity: Practical applications. Journal of clinical psychology, 61(11), 1371-1382. DOI: 10.1002/jclp.20187
  • Allen, E. S., Atkins, D. C., Baucom, D. H., Snyder, D. K., Gordon, K. C., & Glass, S. P. (2005). Intrapersonal, interpersonal, and contextual factors in engaging in and responding to extramarital involvement. Clinical Psychology: Science and Practice, 12(2), 101-130. DOI: 10.1093/clipsy.bpi014
  • Anderson KG (2006) How well does paternity confidence match actual paternity? Evidence from worldwide nonpaternity rates. Current Anthropology 47:513–520.
  • Arnocky S, Sunderani S, Gomes W, Vaillancourt T (2015) Anticipated partner infidelity and men’s intimate partner violence: The mediating role of anxiety. Evolutionary Behavioral Sciences 9: 186–196.
  • Aragona BJ, Liu Y, Yu YJ, Curtis JT, Detwiler JM, et al. (2006) Nucleus accumbens dopamine differentially mediates the formation and maintenance of monogamous pair bonds. Nat Neurosci 9:133–139.
  • Ashoori, N., Karajvandani, S. A., & Kokaneh, S. J. (2016). Investigating the relationship between sexual intimacy and quality of life with positive attitudes toward marital infidelity among married women. International Journal of Humanities and Cultural Studies, 1(1), 698-708. Retrieved from
  • Atkins, D. C., Baucom, D. H., & Jacobson, N. S. (2001). Understanding infidelity: correlates in a national random sample. Journal of family psychology, 15(4), 735-749.
  • Atkins, D. C., Eldridge, K. A., Baucom, D. H., & Christensen, A. (2005). Infidelity and behavioral couple therapy: optimism in the face of betrayal. Journal of consulting and clinical psychology, 73(1), 144-150.
  • Atkins, D. C., & Gallop, R. J. (2007). Rethinking how family researchers model infrequent outcomes: a tutorial on count regression and zero-inflated models. Journal of Family Psychology, 21(4), 726-735.
  • Atkins, D. C., & Kessel, D. E. (2008). Religiousness and infidelity: Attendance, but not faith and prayer, predict marital fidelity. Journal of Marriage and Family, 70(2), 407-418. DOI: 10.1111/j.1741-3737.2008.00490.x
  • Atkins, D. C., Marín, R. A., Lo, T. T., Klann, N., & Hahlweg, K. (2010). Outcomes of couples with infidelity in a community-based sample of couple therapy. Journal of Family Psychology, 24(2), 212-216.
  • Atkins, D. C., Yi, J., Baucom, D. H., & Christensen, A. (2005). Infidelity in couples seeking marital therapy. Journal of Family Psychology, 19(3), 470-473.
  • Bader, Ellyn and Pearson, Peter (2001). Tell Me No Lies. New York: St. Martins
  • Baranoladi, S., Etemadi, O., Ahmadi, S. A., & Fatehizade, M. (2016). Qualitative Evaluation of Men Vulnerability to Extramarital Relations. Asian Social Science, 12(7), 202. DOI:
  • Buss DM (2003) The Evolution of Desire. New York: Basic Books.
  • Buss, D. M., & Abrams, M. (2017). Jealousy, infidelity, and the difficulty of diagnosing pathology: A CBT approach to coping with sexual betrayal and the green-eyed monster. Journal of Rational-Emotive & Cognitive-Behavior Therapy, 35(2), 150-172. doi:10.1007/s10942-016-0248-9
  • Cater, T., Zeigler-Hill, V., & Besser, A. (2016). Exposure to an infidelity threat manipulation: The role of adult attachment dimensions in anticipated relationship evaluation responses. Journal of Individual Differences, 37(2), 119-127.
  • Cornish, M. A., & Wade, N. G. (2015). Working through past wrongdoing: Examination of a self-forgiveness counseling intervention. Journal of Counseling Psychology, 62(3), 521-528.
  • Davis, M. W. (2008). The sex-starved wife: What to do when he’s lost desire. New York, NY: Simon and Schuster.
  • Davis, M. W. (1993). Divorce busting: A step-by-step approach to making your marriage loving again. New York, NY: Simon and Schuster.
  • Fatehizade, M., Rahimi, A., & Yousefi, Z. (2016). The lived experiences of Iranian women, injured from their husbands’ infidelity. Modern Applied Science, 10(4), 70. Retrieved from
  • Garcia, Justin R, MacKillop, James, Aller, Edward L., Merriwether, Ann M., Sloan Wilson, David, Lum, J. Koji. (2010). Associations between Dopamine D4 Receptor Gene Variation with Both Infidelity and Sexual Promiscuity. Published November 30, 2010
  • Garcia JR, Reiber C (2008) Hook-up behavior: A biopsychosocial perspective. J Soc Evol Cult Psychol 2:192–208.
  • Glass, S. (2007). Not “just friends”: Rebuilding trust and recovering your sanity after infidelity. New York, NY: Simon and Schuster.
  • Gorman, L., & Blow, A. (2008). Concurrent depression and infidelity: Background, strategies for treatment, and future research. Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy, 7(1), 39-58.
  • Jeanfreau, M. M., Jurich, A. P., & Mong, M. D. (2014). An examination of potential attractions of women’s marital infidelity. The American Journal of Family Therapy, 42(1), 14-28.
  • Johns, K. N., Allen, E. S., & Gordon, K. C. (2015). The relationship between mindfulness and forgiveness of infidelity. Mindfulness, 6(6), 1462-1471. doi:10.1007/s12671-015-0427-2
  • Kachadourian, L. K., Smith, B. N., Taft, C. T., & Vogt, D. (2015). The impact of infidelity on combat‐exposed service members. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 28(5), 418-425. DOI:10.1002/jts.22033
  • Kazemi, M. S., & Javid, M. M. (2015). Effect of infidelity therapy on improving mental health of betrayed women. International Journal of Psychology and Counselling, 7(2), 24-28. DOI:10.5897/IJPC11.015
  • Klein, M. (2002). Sex addiction: A dangerous clinical concept. Electronic Journal of Human Sexuality, 5. Retrieved from
  • Leivers, Samantha, Simmons, Leigh W., Rhodes, Gillian. (2015) Men’s Sexual Faithfulness Judgments May Contain a Kernel of Truth. PLoS One. 2015; 10(8): e0134007. Published online 2015 Aug 5. doi: 10.1371/journal.pone.0134007. PMCID: PMC4526544
  • Mattingly BA, Clark EM, Weidler DJ, Bullock M, Hackathorn J, Blankmeyer K (2011) Sociosexual orientation, commitment, and infidelity: A mediation analysis. Journal of Social Psychology 151: 222–226.
  • McCarthy, B., & Wald, L. M. (2013). New strategies in assessing, treating, and relapse prevention of extramarital affairs. Journal of sex & marital therapy, 39(6), 493-509.
  • Miller, L. D. (2016). Seeking the Hiding: Working Through Parental Infidelity. Clinical Social Work Journal, 44(3), 252-264. doi:10.1007/s10615-015-0561-2
  • Moller, N. P., & Vossler, A. (2015). Defining infidelity in research and couple counseling: A qualitative study. Journal of sex & marital therapy, 41(5), 487-497.
  • Moore MM (2010) Human nonverbal courtship behavior: a brief historical review. Journal of Sex Research 47: 171–180. doi: 10.1080/00224490903402520
  • Muruthi, B. A., Nasis, T., Jordan, L. S., McCoy, M., Grogan, C., & Farnham, A. (2015). Collaborative therapy approach: Implications for working with Afro-Caribbean families coping with infidelity. Journal of Systemic Therapies, 34(3), 26-43.
  • Negash, S., & Morgan, M. L. (2016). A family affair: Examining the impact of parental infidelity on children using a structural family therapy framework. Contemporary Family Therapy, 38(2), 198-209. doi:10.1007/s10591-015-9364-4
  • Neuman MG (2008). The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It. New Jersey: John Wiley & Sons, Inc.
  • Nogales, A., & Belloti, L. G. (2009). Parents who cheat: How children and adults are affected when their parents are unfaithful. Deer Field Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc.
  • O’Connor JJM, Re DE, Feinberg DR (2011) Voice pitch influences perceptions of sexual infidelity. Evolutionary Psychology 9: 64–78.
  • Papp, P., Scheinkman, M., & Malpas, J. (2013). Breaking the mold: Sculpting impasses in couples’ therapy. Family process, 52(1), 33-45. DOI: 10.1111/famp.12022
  • Parker, M. L., & Campbell, K. (2017). Infidelity and attachment: The moderating role of race/ethnicity. Contemporary Family Therapy, 1-12. doi:10.1007/s10591-017-9415-0
  • Perel, E. (2010). After the storm. Psychotherapy networker, 34(4), 29-33. Retrieved from
  • Perel, E. (2007). Mating in captivity: Unlocking erotic intelligence. New York, NY: Harper.
  • Perel, E. (2003). Erotic intelligence. Psychotherapy Networker, 27, 24-31. Retrieved from
  • Piercy, F. P., Hertlein, K. M., & Wetchler, J. L. (Eds.). (2005). Handbook of the clinical treatment of infidelity (Vol. 4, No. 2-3). New York, NY: The Haworth Press.
  • Reibstein, J. (2013). Commentary: A different lens for working with affairs using social constructionist and attachment theory. Journal of Family Therapy, 35(4), 368-380. DOI:10.1111/j.1467-6427.2011.00562.x
  • Ryan, Chris & Cacilda Jetha (2014). Sex At Dawn. New York: Harper Perennial.
  • Sauerheber, J. D., & Disque, J. G. (2016). A trauma-based physiological approach: Helping betrayed partners heal from marital infidelity. The Journal of Individual Psychology, 72(3), 214-234. Retrieved from
  • Schade, L. C., & Sandberg, J. G. (2012). Healing the attachment injury of marital infidelity using emotionally focused couples therapy: A case illustration. The American Journal of Family Therapy, 40(5), 434-444.
  • Scheinkman, M., & Werneck, D. (2010). Disarming jealousy in couples relationships: A multidimensional approach. Family process, 49(4), 486-502. DOI: 10.1111/j.1545-5300.2010.01335.x
  • Scheinkman, M. (2005). Beyond the trauma of betrayal: Reconsidering affairs in couples therapy. Family Process, 44(2), 227-244. DOI: 10.1111/j.1545-5300.2005.00056.x
  • Scheinkman, M., & DeKoven Fishbane, M. (2004). The vulnerability cycle: Working with impasses in couple therapy. Family Process, 43(3), 279-299. DOI: 10.1111/j.1545-5300.2004.00023.x
  • Schmidt, A. E., Green, M. S., Sibley, D. S., & Prouty, A. M. (2016). Effects of parental infidelity on adult children’s relational ethics with their partners: A contextual perspective. Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy, 15(3), 193-212.
  • Soble, Alan (2002). Pornography, sex, and feminism. New York: Prometheus Books.
  • Vaughan, P. (2003). The monogamy myth: A personal handbook for recovering from affairs. New York, NY: Newmarket Press.
  • Vossler, A. (2016). Internet infidelity 10 years on: A critical review of the literature. The Family Journal, 24(4), 359-366. DOI:
  • Vossler, A., & Moller, N. P. (2014). “The relationship past can’t be the future”: Couple counsellors’ experiences of working with infidelity. Sexual and Relationship Therapy, 29(4), 424-435.
  • Weil, S. M. (2003). The extramarital affair: A language of yearning and loss. Clinical Social Work Journal, 31(1), 51-62. doi:10.1023/A:1021414601945
  • Whisman, M. A., & Snyder, D. K. (2007). Sexual infidelity in a national survey of American women: differences in prevalence and correlates as a function of method of assessment. Journal of Family Psychology, 21(2), 147.
  • Williamson, M. E., & Brimhall, A. S. (2016). A journey of Remembering: A Narrative Framework for Older Couples Experiencing Infidelity. Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy, 1-21.
  • Zietsch BP, Verweij KJH, Bailey JM, Wright MJ, Martin NG (2010) Genetics and environmental influences on risky sexual behaviour and its relationship with personality. Behav Genet 40: 12–21.
  • Zimmerman, T. S., Holm, K. E., Daniels, K. C., & Haddock, S. A. (2002). Barriers and bridges to intimacy and mutuality: A critical review of sexual advice found in self-help bestsellers. Contemporary family therapy, 24(2), 289-311. doi:10.1023/A:1015399324887

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